[ Chinese and Foreign Toys News] The 14th "Parent University Hall" hosted by the Yangzi Evening News, Nanjing Education Bureau's Primary and Secondary School Learning Research and Training Center and Risheng Education was held in Nanjing recently. This time, the parent university hall invited Zhang Xinjian, an expert on emotional intelligence education, to talk about the formation of children's emotional intelligence and how to make children have self-confidence. Dr. Gu Li, Director of the Learning and Training Institute of Primary and Secondary Schools of the Nanjing Municipal Education Bureau, Zhang Xiangzhong, President of Risheng Education, and more than 100 readers of the newspaper listened to the lectures. Teacher Zhang Xinjian pointed out that children with high emotional intelligence do better than children with low emotional intelligence in terms of self-confidence, frustration resistance, and interpersonal relationships. The baby has a strong curiosity when he is a toddler. When he grows up, he will slowly lose these spirits and abilities. This is related to the child's psychological characteristics and acquired environmental influences. How to control the children's emotions and how to give them It is very important for children to create a good environment. Parents are not advisable Many parents lack the knowledge of emotional intelligence, often suppressing or even punishing their children's emotions. This is to add “blocking†to children's emotional management. Parents often deal with children's emotional problems: exchange, punishment, indifference, and preaching are all undesirable. Zhang Xinjian pointed out that when children are in a mood, many parents adopt a sly method: "If you don't make trouble, I will buy it for you." Or say to the child, "If you want to be worthy of others, you can't make a temper." A typical "exchange" parent. Exchange is equivalent to connivance and is not advisable. There are also some parents who like to intimidate and beat their children to cope with their emotional problems. "You don't want to cry, cry and slap, give you to others..." and some parents will repeatedly tell the children. The children generally reflect that their parents are “too embarrassedâ€, but they encourage their negative emotions. Some parents will definitely say, then I will say nothing, do not do it, the child's emotions will automatically turn better? This is not the case. Indifferent parents have greater “killing power†on children’s emotional control. Let the child cry, do not guide the child's emotions from the front, pretend not to see, this is not conducive to the formation of good interaction and communication, the child will not open to parents over time, parents become the "most familiar stranger" . How to cultivate children's positive emotions and control bad emotions? Parents must first control their bad feelings, set a good example for children; give children more freedom, do not restrain children; teach children how to vent their emotions, such as taking a few deep breaths when angry, from 1 to 10 Be the strongest voice of the child, the "good buddy" in life. Parents encourage more children to try Zhang Xinjian said that the education, experience, and family environment that children receive the day after tomorrow play an important role in their growth. When talking about the impact of the family environment on the growth of children, he mentioned: “The environment created by parents will determine how children will look at and deal with their own life, study and family when they are adults.†Long-term living in domestic violence and all kinds of cold violence A child in a family tends to become a perpetrator himself in his adulthood, no matter what social status he has or what kind of education he has. “In its conceptual ideology, violence is the fastest way to solve problems.†“A lot of children are playful, and they will do a lot of bold moves on the rise, such as graffiti, demolishing toys, etc. At this time, many parents tend to stop their farce. In fact, this kind of behavior kills the child’s spirituality. These behaviors are children. In exploring the world and understanding the world, this is the basis for transforming the world. Parents cannot stop at this time. The nature of children needs to be protected." Similarly, when a child asks for a busy time for a parent or wants to complete a task independently, you must not say “you can’t do it†to the child. This will not only destroy the child’s interest, but also make the child feel weak and feel that he is not good. No ability is "normal." Parents should try to say some positive language, that is, encourage children, let the children try to "take risks" as much as possible, and tell him "you do." In family environment education, parents should focus on cultivating children's self-confidence. "Don't always let your child take 100 points. It's also good to tell them 99 points, because there is room for improvement, and every time you can make progress." Emotional education is divided into three periods Zhang Xinjian believes that the child's EQ education is divided into three periods: 0 to 3 years old, which is a period of parent-child attachment relationship. At this time, the children are very dependent on their parents. During this period, they should focus on eye contact during the exchange and let the children pay attention to others. s eyes. In the choice of toys, it is necessary to choose children who are under 3 years old to play, so that children can play, have fun, and continue to experience success. 3-6 years old is a crucial period of interpersonal communication. During this period, parents should bring the correct concept of friendship and true self-confidence to their children. True self-confidence is not exaggerated, but is built in full communication. This kind of communication includes people, people and things. At this time, the parents should do a good job of demonstrating the story first, then let the children tell the story to the parents themselves. Many children will form their own friends, and the parents should do a good job of diverting their emotions and pass on the correct opinions. They, for example, friends should be kind, upright, honest, and so on. Children aged 7-12 are often referred to as “solidified cement.†During this period, their values, outlook on life, and worldview are forming. At this time, children will still be confused by friends. Parents must "speak together with their children and accompany them." On the issue of making friends, tell them that "friendship should also pay attention to quality. From 1 onwards, a friend is sometimes more important than a group of friends" and learn to share happiness and troubles with friends. Makeup Brush Travel Set,Custom Makeup Brushes,Oval Makeup Brush Set,7Pcs Brush Set DONGGUAN YACAI COSMETICS CO.,LTD. , https://www.yacaicosmetic.com